The wife your Suppose to be

Here I go again on my little soapbox that is getting bigger and bigger each and every day.  But here goes.

Women if your married to a loving husband, one that provides for you, takes care of your every need, you never worry about the bills, or your children, THEN WHY,,OH WHY are you not being a wife to your husband??

There is one thing I know for a fact and that is when you said those little vows to one another it wasn't just for when you want it to be.  Let me explain myself just a little here.  The bible says in Ephesians 5:22-33 - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  Do you see that women?? Read it again carefully. There is alot to be said here in this verse but the one thing that I am getting at from it is to SUBMIT. There are several areas that a wife should submit to her husband, one of them is intimacy. That is a big one girls. A happily married man is happy in all areas of his marriage. Who invented the marriage bed? GOD is who.

In 1 Corinthians 7: 3-5 it says
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other,except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 

My soapbox is about those wives that feel its ok "Not" to be intimate with their husbands.  If you read the verses above you see that you are to be intimate with you husband and he with you.  Its all part of the plan that God give between a man and a woman.  The only time your not to share intimacy is when you have both agreed to be apart for a time, but here is the condition """ you are to be in prayer and fasting during this time""".  Now Ladies I ask you, " Are you in prayer and fasting?"  I do not think most of you are.  I have heard some women say " I just have no desire for intimacy with my husband".. Nuhhh uhhh that's a no, no.
If you want to know why you and your husband is not getting along this could be the problem.  I have heard women say " I'm to tired to show him any attention" or " He shows me no attention". Guess what ladies, If its attention that your desiring, you ever think maybe he is too?  That attention thing works both ways.  My biggest pet peeve is when a woman just stops trying at all and when the marriage falls apart it never was anything to do with the marriage bed (unless cheating was there, a whole other subject) and how there was no intimacy.  The bible states you are not over your own body but the man is and you are over his.  The attraction you felt when you first got married is still there ladies. Just because you have grown  up, or older or whatever excuse you have, IT"S STILL THERE!!  You must find ways to ensure that you are showing you husband that you love him this way.  I am sure he will do the same.  It doesn't always have to be sexual, but just a kind touch, or word sometimes says "I Love You".  That however doesn't mean for you to leave the sexual part out of it.  God did not intend for us to be married and have no intimacy.  Come together as one as the bible says in Ephesians 5:22-33
5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

This is the end to my soapbox today.  I hope that by reading this that someone out there will see that intimacy is a vital part of a marriage. Don't let the devil get in the way of you being intimate to you husband. He tries hard to destroy the marriage anyways, so don't give in to him.

My prayer today is that I may be of a help by writing what God would have me to share with you, I pray that you will return to the original marriage plan, and heal what need to be healed in your marriage. Amen

Peggy McCoyle
SAHWM and Homeschool Supporter


  1. Amen Ms Peggy!!! That is VERY true! The world likes to take this concept and make it something it shouldn't be.. they want to tell women to use their husbands desire for sexuality as something they can use against them to 'get what they want'. Women don't realize how wrong this is! Its awesome that you stood up for the truth, even when its unpopular and I'm sure steps on a lot of toes :) Love you! Love your soapbox as well!

  2. Thank you Stacy, that means a lot to me, I know its not very popular, but if women was to really get in there and be under their husbands and let him lead things would be much different.


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